loss of a baby during pregnancy or at birth


Losing a baby can be the hardest thing we ever have to survive. We can heal, but we never forget.

These pages are meant to be a safe space for remembering. Share a story, a poem, a prayer or a blessing. Our babies are gone, but are never out of our thoughts or out of our hearts.

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Regrets that I have about what I didn’t do with our baby:

 

  1. I didn’t kiss him. The reason I didn’t do this is that for some reason I had it in my head that if I kissed him his skin might come off on my lips. Even though he looked perfectly healthy and normal, this was what was going through my head at the time.
  2. I didn’t explore his body very much. I was too afraid to handle his body…I think if my caregivers would have explained the WHYs behind me spending time with Bryce. And if they would have explained what other bereaved parents (from the past) had done to cherish their time with their babies, I just may have had much less fear in spending time with my precious Bryce.
  3. I never got to see his backside.
  4. I didn’t get enough pictures, I have only 4. (No family group pictures either.)
  5. We didn’t take any pictures with my husband or son holding Bryce.
  6. I didn’t get any nude pictures.
  7. We didn’t take any videos or pictures with our own camera.
  8. I wish I spent more time with him.
  9. I didn’t get any hand prints (clay or ink.)
  10. I wish I had bathed Bryce and brought a special outfit from home for him to wear in his pictures.
  11. I wish we had a memorial service and invited all of our family & friends to come.
  12. We didn’t see what color his eyes were.

An angel opened the book of life 
and wrote down my baby's birth. 
Then she whispered as she closed the book
"too beautiful for earth".